Not that there is any love lost between me and Men’s Rights Activists who run around saying that feminism is destroying the world and I’d better go make them a sandwich, but there ARE a few non-insane movement-affiliated organizations with some valid points out there, and they deserve a little discussion.
So this is for them.
There are a couple of points that MRAs get right…it’s just that a lot of MRAs get feminism all wrong. So for those of you who STILL for some reason believe that feminism is about making women superior…that’s called reactionary feminism.
It’s a minority of feminists.
It is NOT what mainstream feminists believe.
At its core, feminism is about EQUALITY and it is about deconstructing the Patriarchy.
Is anyone lost? No? Good. I really don’t want to keep going over this.
So what DO MRAs have right? They have a completely valid point when they say that women are preferenced in family court; they are more likely to get custody of children, they are more likely to be in control of visiting hours, etc. On top of that, men are disincentivized to report instances of domestic violence and rape because they won’t be believed or they’ll be treated like failures because they were victims. (As a rape crisis-counselor, this really pisses me off.) In some cases, if a man reports a DV incident, the woman will turn around and say HE hit HER, and he’ll be arrested too. Obviously, that’s completely unfair and just a load of crap. For a look at some of the organizations dealing with these issues, check out RADAR andFathers and Families.
But here’s the problem: are feminists responsible for these problems?